Take-Home Point — Even the best of relationships can become strained. An odd comment here, a missed text there, and suddenly the Needy Person is on high alert. Needy People maintain constant communication as a crutch to prevent pain but don’t always recognize that lots of communication drain those we…

Take Home Point — Sometimes, no matter how important you think a communication is, a response will not be forthcoming. That invite, that funny pic, or that request to talk may simply fall into a black void. It can be hard to not take that personally, but the Needy Person…

Take Home Point — Catastrophizing is a thinking distortion that forces you to think the worst has or will happen based on little evidence. A prime example is a fear that you will be in a plane crash — a very unlikely outcome. It is incorrectly believing the worst outcome…

Take Home Point — There are people who always leave the cookies in the oven a little too long, take forever to shop for a pair of shoes, and take their sweet ass time responding to a text. These are people for whom life is too distracting, too full of…

Take Home Point — A lot of terrible things are going on in the world at any moment, but the chances they are happening to your lover or your relationship are very, very small. Your emotional brain is extremely poor at determining probabilities so Needy People need to build THE…

Take-Home Point — Filtering is a thinking distortion that creates a worldview in which you focus on a negative action and ignore all the positive action. Ultimately erasing all the positive energy you’ve built up for them resulting in a Neediness Spiral. Filtering forces negative outcomes to dominate your thoughts…

Take Home Point — A lot of terrible things are going on in the world at any moment, but the chances they are happening to your lover or your relationship are very, very small. Your emotional brain is extremely poor at determining probabilities so Needy People need to build THE…

Take Home Point — Needy People MUST understand that we are not the center of the other person’s life and even if we are (spouse, etc), a text is just a few electrons organized in a specific way and a call is just sound waves traveling through space. Neither should…

I get it, I’m a world class, grade A, needy clinger. And I have to change. To all the people in my life who had an experience with the clinginess, I’m sorry. You put up with me and all my insecurities far longer than you had to. You didn’t do…